Reversing Dysregulation Conditioning

My trauma response is to Fawn and Freeze. Which means I usually either shut down or try to appease the people surround me to get out of a stressful or uncomfortable situation. I noticed this kept going even up to now, when I am 39 y.o. near to 40. This type of behaviour usually manifested when I am stressed and rather than tending to my own needs, I would buy present for other people or do something nice for other people instead. I think this behaviour was further exacerbated by the brain washing ideologies of the self help industry I was entrenched myself in back in the early 2000s.